Farewell

NOTE: this was a farewell post for a coaching group that I was a part of, so it highlights a lot of my accomplishments during my time in the group. I’ve removed specific references to them

Here’s my backstory and my accomplishments while I’ve been in the coaching group. I’ve followed X’s content, specifically website and old forums, for about a couple of years. I clicked best with his general philosophy because it focused on taking a lot of pressure off and being calm/content/ grateful while still being successful. I’ve very much already lived a hustle life and have been wanting to transition to something less stressful but struggled to do so.

I want to live a beautiful life from now on.

I’ve also struggled to find a good exemplar of what I wanted from online coaches or sites – most seemed very scammy, too “bro”-focused/faux masculinity, and or generally toxic or unhelpful. Some of those might work for others, but they did not appeal to me.

The coaching was a way for me to finally support X, whose ideas had helped me very much over the last 2 years, as well as give myself a chance to really focus on myself and guide myself to a a better future. A future that I chose and wanted for the first time in my life without external influences (of parents, military, exwife, school, career, society, etc.).

After my 4 months are all said and done, I feel very much more peaceful and excited about my 4 future again. I have more plans – but more on those elsewhere. I’ll try out the other group and likely keep active there. Feel free to message me there or FB.

Coaching has helped give me a good network, peace of mind, and good resources to be who I want to be going forward.

My Intro Post (Reasons Why I Came)

TLDR: reset my life after divorcing, worked and quit 2 jobs, lost a lot of weight (~10kg/20lbs), went from a very little romantic experience to much more post divorce, got rid of most of my possessions, moved to Mexico, studied Spanish for half year, all while having no idea what I was doing but loving every minute

Accomplishments During Coaching

• finished therapy: this is my first round of therapy that I feel better afterwards we mostly focused on healing from my divorce and adjusting to life here as a foreigner in Mexico
• obtained permanent residency: this was a big goal of mine.. I can live here in Mexico forever without any issues, having to leave or renew. I am super proud that I did the whole process myself, in Spanish, and without using those snarky “facilitators” or lawyers that charge an arm and a leg to barely help through the process (if you speak Spanish and meet the requirements they are unnecessary for Mexico; the FB groups are helpful but catty/snarky)
• bouncing around/settling down in CDMX: I have a better idea more than ever where I will live more permanently in a part of the city that serves my needs and desires; with residency I can stop getting screwed by Airbnb and rent more easily
• Spanish fluency: I’ve already declared this goal achieved, but I’ve made even more progress: all in Spanish – I am reading 3 books, listening to podcasts, talking to strangers/making friends more easily, etc. –> my only real area of improvement is I have difficulty hearing accents/facemasks (unironically hard of hearing in English too) and mastering the slang here
• finished coaching: this, along with therapy, has helped me an incredible amount; you very much get out what you put in
• ladyfriend: I’m unsure if this is going anywhere, but she continues to bring incredible insight into my life, thought processes, and emotions and of course we have a great time together; again, this has been great healing for me post-divorce and practice of boundaries and communication
• friends: I finally feel that I have close, local friends who not only support me, my goals, and my life here but also continue to care for me and open the world of Mexico to me little by little
• stopped talking to parents: as a birthday present to myself this year, I stopped talking to my parents; I realized that they have only negatively influenced me:by not supporting my goals or frustrating me with their negativity/racism/unsupportiveness. I plan to return to therapy to slay this dragon in the fall and maybe re-engage with them, but for the time being, I’ve only regretted not cutting them off sooner and will not talk to them any time soon
• coached a close friend into losing his virginity: he gave me a lot of credit to help him over this big hurdle… insane to have been a part of this
• turned 30
• accepted money to be a paid coach finally (I had turned down previous offers)

Going Forward

• take myself more seriously and have fun

Advice for Anyone Else:

• get close with your accountability buddies (or anyone else in the group that is cool to you)
• post as much as you can – feel free to read my posts to see what a successful trainwrec’ looks like—

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