Big Accomplishments

What’s up dudes. It’s been some time… I want to take a moment to highlight some accomplishments and quick reflection.

I’ve been posting here for the last year and half – sometimes very regimented and sometimes sporadic. What I have needed in the moment always changes. For me, I’ve hustled for a lot of my life, and I am transitioning to less of a hustle and more of a slow improvement phase I believe. Maybe not forever but for the time being. I am blessed to be able to live as such due to the fruits of my hard labor and a lot of incredible luck and support.

Accomplishments

• finished therapy: this is my first round of therapy that I feel better afterwards – we mostly focused on healing from my divorce and adjusting to life here as a foreigner in Mexico
• obtained permanent residency: this was a big goal of mine… I can live here in Mexico forever without any issues or renewing. I am super proud that I did the whole process myself, in Spanish, and without using those snarky “facilitators” or lawyers that charge an arm and a leg to barely help through the process (if you speak Spanish and meet the requirements – they are unnecessary for Mexico; the FB groups are helpful but catty/snarky)
• bouncing around/settling down in CDMX: I have a better idea more than ever where I will live more permanently in a part of the city that serves my needs and desires; with residency I can stop getting screwed by Airbnb and rent more easily
• Spanish fluency: I’ve already declared this goal achieved, but I’ve made even more progress: all in Spanish – I am reading 3 books, listening to podcasts, talking to strangers/friends more easily, etc. –> my only real area of improvement is I have difficulty hearing/accents/facemasks (unironically hard of hearing in English too) and mastering the slang here
• almost finished coaching: this, along with therapy, has helped me an incredible amount; you very much get out what you put in
• ladyfriend: I’m unsure if this is going anywhere, but she continues to bring incredible insight into my life, thought process, and emotions and of course we have a great time together; again, this has been great healing for me post-divorce and practice of boundaries and communication
• friends: I finally feel that I have close, local friends who not only support me, my goals, and my life here but also continue to care for me and open the world of Mexico to me little by little
• stopped talking to parents: as a birthday present to myself this year, I stopped talking to my parents a couple of months ago; I realized that they have only negatively influenced me: by not supporting my goals or frustrating me with their negativity/racism/unsupportiveness. I plan to return to therapy to slay this dragon in the fall and maybe re-engage with them, but for the time being, I’ve only regretted not cutting them off sooner and will not talk to them anymore
• coached a close friend into losing his virginity: he gave me a lot of credit to help him over this big hurdle… insane to have been a part of this
• turned 30

Next Steps

• old roommate/best friend and I are going to rent an apartment together starting in summer for long-term housing
• returning back to school in the fall in some capacity
• completing more admin/governmental tasks to smooth out my life here
• get a part-time job to not run out of money
• enjoy the hell out of summer and continue learning about Mexico through my friends and experiences

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