Finish Space Course Accidentally Got A Gf And Enjoying The Fuck Out Of Life
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I took a little break here since I realized that I needed to give my time elsewhere for fun, productivity, learning, and even a little love. Internally, I feel the need to accomplish and grow more, but I think that’s my internal anxiety trying to push me to perform as I have most of my life. I’m personally doing some journaling to work through this since I know that I will need a plan eventually after I finish my Spanish schooling. I have it on my backlog to clean up my guide that I wrote for myself to move down here – quite a number of good ideas for anyone who has never lived abroad before (like me). In this moment, I hope to never return to the US
Next Mission: keep working towards more clarity and enjoy my time here
Actions
- Finished Spanish level 4:
- 87% overall in my class (writing, verbal, reading, listening)
- SIELE language cert: tested at a level of B1 in listening and B2 in reading (B2 is higher) – B1 or B2 is usually the minimum for job or university requirements, so I’m almost “fluent”
- 100% in grammar and salsa (but those are easy)
- Sleeping way better: stress, emotions, anxiety, etc. have all really improved. TBH a bit of weed has helped me a lot with these
- Many fun dates, parties, and memories here with friends and my dope roommate – it’s all temporary and I appreciate the heck out of it
- Survived the cold/COVID and food poisoning (from an Asian restaurant oddly enough)
- Currently planning my next tattoo of an Aztec theme as a colab between me, my roommate (Aztec PhD student), and another artist friend
- I have a GF (more details below)
- Trips planned/paid for here in Mexico City, beach in Puerto Escondido, y Aztec ruins in Tlaxcala over my 2 week break before next school term starts
Other Foreigners
As a quick aside, if you ever move to a foreign country, there’s always some network of different foreigner groups. Some of them can be kinda shady or have strange details sometimes, so just be aware. People (like me) who leave their home country for a very different place usually are weird and have some secrets to hide. I have no secrets to hide; I’m just crazy and unstable 🤠
Girlfriend
This next section will be really long but I’ll try to bold/highlight my learning lessons through all this. This beautiful woman has taught me so much and helped heal me in a lot of ways that I don’t think I would have done otherwise in such a short time. My English writing is suffering a bit from all this Spanish, so fair warning
Welp, I told myself that I wanted a lot of time before entering into a relationship and all that after divorce – and I am happy that I broke my own “promise” to myself. This is a relationship and it isn’t in a lot of ways. Pretty sick setup
I’m currently dating a cute, sweet chick (she is from and will return to Asia).
She’s an exchange student in the Spanish program with me, and we had our salsa dance class together. I had been advertising myself as a flirty gentleman badboy (kinda fucked on how to explain it but you get it) of sorts going on a lot of dates down here and seeing a few locals… and I had a lot of chicks very interested in me – on apps (of course) but also a lot of the internationals as well. She is easily the most extroverted Asian here and maybe out of the whole Spanish program.
She would always ask me about how all my dates went, and I made sure to tell her and confidently explain that I knew what I was doing (romantic dates, charm, flirt, fucking, etc.). I noticed while we danced she seemed pretty receptive, so I finally told her that I would take her on a romantic date since she hadn’t had much luck here (she previously told me she wanted a “Mexican boyfriend to take back to her country” LOL). <– basically: I’m older than most others here and presented myself as the older but not old dude with a lot of life experience and knowledge. This is partly an accident since I’ve really just been very open and vulnerable here in a confident way and people fucking love it. An aside: I normally say I’m “Professor/Coach Kyle” in life, Spanish, sex, relationships, etc. and people (esp. dates) bite hard on this… pretty cheesy but it works
Well, that was honestly the “hard” part and it wasn’t even hard. I took her to a nice cobblestone area neighborhood here with cafes, and we talked, drank some hot chocolate, and walked around the area. She once again reiterated that the guys here are timid, and I told her she was lucky because I’m not. Told her I had a bottle of champagne to split with her back at my place, and we went back. Sipped, talked, and eventually made out and went to my bedroom. I didn’t plan to have sex [in all honesty] because I was avoiding getting involved with anyone at school… and I was pretty soft the whole night. That said, I used the old Doxy wand and my skills to give her a good time and fully expected to not go on another date with her (again more that I didn’t want to “shit in my own backyard” at school sort of thing). <– Speculating: Owing to her youth/inexperience and my sick romance skills, she fell hard for me after this. We’ve been dating for 2 weeks
I initially told her that I wasn’t doing exclusive relationships especially after just getting divorced and when we both are only here for a few months. She understood and agreed, but the fucking Asian mafia (just the other Asian students) kept pestering her about what we were. Finally at a house party I threw, we went off to the side and talked about “our relationship”. I told her I have no issues with a relationship, but I will still see others (and have) and still have some healing to do. She was happy albeit jealous with that, so here we are. I am ready to walk away from the relationship if her feelings become a problem, but they are important to me just not final. <– This is really just a difference of cultures, but I’m surprised at how well she accepted my open relationship frame. Probably helps I came off as the “player” first so it’s no surprise. I also have toned down my talk off my other dates and what not at school since I know the reputation/gossip thing still plays a part culturally and socially
I’ve already told her that I will ruin her and be the best experience of her life. Regardless if this is true, this mindset has been really good for me. I’ve shared this with her and other friends. Again, one of those strange things that sounds crazy or manipulative but people love the brutal honesty and straightforwardness
Now on to some funny details
- Our common language is Spanish (she can’t speak English just knows some words/phrases)… and her Spanish is usually not good. <– I’m learning how unimportant talking can really be. Sure you need a little bit and longer relationships might need it, but we really don’t need to talk about deep topics or our feelings in order to enjoy each other’s time. Honestly, I’m glad I don’t have to listen to another woman complain or “vent”… a bit allergic to that
- I’m allegedly her first kiss…. and everything else beyond that. I can’t believe it, but idk… explains why she liked me so quickly
- She loves kinky/“sexo duro”… I’ve been slowing expanding my BDSM skills with her to include blindfold, handcuffs, neck collar, spanking, feather play, nipple clips, etc. I told her I’m going to really tie her up with my ropes soon. I haven’t asked her yet, but I want to see if I can get some BDSM pics with her and/or work towards a 3some eventually <– I can feel my “Dom” side growing more… and I enjoy it. Generally, I enjoy the feeling of the power exchange more than even nutting (though don’t get me wrong, a good nut never hurt nobody). I’m very grateful to have her and to be able to grow this side of me WHILE pleasing the heck out of her
- She’s a Christian, but I have no problem with that. Just funny to be with her one day and then walking her to church the next
- Personality-wise: super cute and funny. She is very expressive, sing-songy, energetic, brings me homecooked Asian food, loves pleasing me, loves being pleased, loves being led/dominated, etc. <– now I see why a lot of white dudes go to Asia… it’s a stereotype, but damn I’m finally getting to live it in Mexico. I really enjoy her energy and femininity. Hot take: fuck white women I will never go back. Native Latinas and Asians are dangerous in a good way