About
KyleThis entire journey (and website) is one big experiment for me – an exercise in being more open, honest, and vulnerable. With that comes the acceptance of all my imperfections – those things I spent years hiding, fixing, or even lying about.
Why live like that anymore? I’m tired of being anyone but myself.
This is both a personal and business project – a space where I explore my thoughts, document my experiences, and share insights from my life.
This site is for me first. This is my magnum opus – my life’s “great work.”
Writing has always been a way for me to process ideas, express gratitude for moments in my life, and reflect on my journey.
I see this as an experimental performance project – an open-source approach to my life where I document not just what I experience but how I handle it. This idea has been on my mind for many years, but in practice, I’ve been actively writing and refining it for the past couple of years.
A turning point for me was realizing that, despite checking all the boxes of success – education, career, societal expectations – I still felt unfulfilled. That sense of being lost led me to rethink my direction and purpose. I’d always been in roles that involved helping others, but I struggled to see the direct impact. This project is my way of finding a different kind of impact for me – one that grows over time.
At its heart, my goal is simple: to be open, honest, and vulnerable – as much as I can be. I know I can’t be 100% perfectly transparent, but I aim for that. Life isn’t perfect, and neither am I, but I believe there’s value in sharing the process rather than just the results.
For more technical details about how the site was built, check my sitemap.
I hope you find something here that’s meaningful to you. Feel free to reach out.
- Kyle (OpenSourceKyle)
My Writing Guidelines
Generally speaking, I will focus on my experiences and the processes I use to accomplish things on this website. The idea is to tell more of my story while also providing actionable advice for myself and, secondarily, for others.
Protect Privacy of Others
- No names
- Minimize identifiable information
Blog Posts
- Can be imperfect and messy
- Can be negative and dark
Regular Pages
- Maintain a good, positive, and understanding tone
NSFW Content
- Include disclaimers and appropriate tags
Some of My Influences
Certain individuals have greatly influenced my thinking and philosophies, driving me to take significant action in my life. I typically follow ideas in the realm of male self-improvement, focusing on action and positivity, while steering clear of the toxicity and negativity that can be prevalent in that space. These ideas may not be mainstream, but they have undoubtedly helped me, my friends, and my clients. With so much positive impact, I feel compelled to share them. Their ideas will need to be tailored to your own context, but I am confident they will help – just as they have helped me. You will likely see references to them throughout my website.
Of note, these individuals often communicate in a distinctly male way. Males and females biologically and socially communicate differently, but the reasons why are irrelevant here. Listen to the ideas. Some of these men have evolved as their ideas have matured, which serves as inspiration for my own growth.
For me, the key has been to focus on the parts that add significant value and not to get caught up in opinions on other matters – such as politics or personal beliefs. I have followed aspects of each of these influences to help build the life I have long desired. I will briefly highlight what I appreciate about each of them. I do not agree with everything they say, and it’s important to mention that.
My goal is to become a better man – I ask for some level of patience, understanding, and charitability from you.
Andy of KillYourInnerLoser
Specializing in BDSM, dating, and goals, Andy has been my #1 influence for the last few years. I initially read and applied his ideas to strengthen my former marriage in connection and BDSM. I continue to use his techniques in my new relationships and have incorporated more of his positive mindset strategies into my life.
Dr. Robert Glover of the book: No More Mr. Nice Guy
Dr. Glover’s book highlights the most important concept and issue faced by “nice guys”: covert contracts, which he defines as essentially uncommunicated needs and desires, along with the toxic expectations that accompany them. I have listened to the audio version once, read the book twice, and completed all 40-something reflection exercises to realize that I was afraid to communicate my needs and desires in every facet of my life. I have recommended this book to numerous friends and clients.
Alex of Playing With Fire
Alex specializes in online dating, particularly with phone swiping apps like Tinder. I find a lot of value in his advice on communicating through text messages for dates, which can also be applied to other areas of my life.
Austen Summers of the same business name
Austen specializes in face-to-face communication and building authentic connections with women outside of the apps.
Caleb Jones of the same business name
Caleb offers a wealth of content, but I have personally gained a lot from his ideas on open relationships and how to live internationally (though I discovered him after moving to Mexico). He provides very specific niche content for location-independent businesses.